wpid-wp-1418668879567.jpegGoing home is fast becoming a nightmare.

I can’t even spend one minute with my folks and all I hear is “Marriage this, marriage that!” Am I the only single person on earth? Am I the only person who has been unlucky with men? Should I just bring anybody home as husband? I wish they could just free me…

I’m seriously beginning to get sick and tired of hearing anything ‘Marriage’ or ‘Husband’.


While my mother was busy telling me about her friend whose son just got back from the United States (that got my interest though…who no like better thing?!), my mind kept filtering back at the outing I had over the weekend. Damn! I messed up BIG TIME!! My mother can keep yacking away for all I care, when there are more important issues to brood about…

This weekend would have been a hit for me, but No, I just had to judge a book by its cover! I went to the club with my friends…Yes Remi and Uzor (don’t blame me, they seem to know all the happening places and people) and there I met one ‘short Devil’, as ugly as what I can’t describe! He had the guts to ask me for a minute. Even when I ignored him, he was still persistent, until I insulted the living daylight out of him. The guy was so embarrassed that he decided to leave early. By then my friends had gathered around to ask what was up.

Someone please don’t ask me what ride he came in, or the number of body guards with him…OR WHO HIS FATHER IS?! JESUS EH!!…a day I will never forget! If only, he hadn’t been so short and ugly. If only he hadn’t been so shabbily dressed. Or is that how real life Princes dress now?! I don’t get!

Mscheew!…and my mother is here talking about a ‘hungry boy’ from United States.

That’s how I lost my chance of ‘settling down’!…back to square one na!


Excerpts from VANGUARD

Empress Njamah

Empress Njamah 

Sexy and daring Nollywood actress, Empress Njamah says she can never contemplate dating a poor man, let alone consider getting married to one. When she was asked recently to talk about marriage,she discounted the issue with a wave of the hand, saying, “Please, marriage is not the thing on my mind right now”.

She went further to say “I can’t marry my colleague! Boring living in the same house with someone you know his job so well as well as his income! Should you be more popular or get richer than the man, then you are in trouble as this could be dangerous. If you are on six figures and he is on less, there is trouble. Men and their egos!”.


  Rita Dominic

I just love this chic…too classy!

She recently disclosed that she will settle down once she meets the right person as she didn’t choose to remain single. She once accused the media of ruining her relationships, each time she has any looking good for the altar.

Abi O! No one chooses to be single jare!







Benita Nzeribe

When it comes to marriage though, she has not been lucky. When asked why she is yet to get married, actress Benita Nzeribe said: “If I have to say the truth, marriage is not all about money or the little things of life. We should marry for real love. That is why I see myself as being able to marry whoever I am in love with, no matter his status in life. That is to say,even if the guy is a wheelbarrow pusher, I would marry him as long as my heart is with him.”



Ebube Nwagbo

Ebube seems only interested in concentrating on her jobs and selling her Posh Hair products. Hear what she said about her single status: “I am still single.

“The reason is that I am someone who has always believed in love. It is a big deal to me so if I have to do it, it has to be right. I am a strong believer of love. I get lots of proposals; it is so crazy I do not know who to give a chance to. I think it is a price I have to pay for stardom.

“Sometimes when anybody comes my way, I do not know who wants to be with me for the right reasons. I believe when that day comes, I will definitely figure out who that person is. It is not easy.

“What I should be talking about is not relationship but marriage. I want to go into marriage and be in it for ever. No one goes into marriage thinking of divorce, but it happens. We try our best.

“I think I am kind of scared, but I just have to give it a try whether I like it or not. It just has to happen and happen right; at the right time.”



Genevieve Nnaji

The Imo State-born screen diva is a single-mother who revealed in an interview that she is still single because she is afraid of divorce. “If I get married, I really want to stay married and staying married is not an easy thing. It means you are completely in tune with your partner. It means you have found your soulmate because you will have to be able to stand a lot of disappointments that would definitely come but then again you have to learn to forgive,” she said.




Halima Abubakar

Halima Abubakar is one actress that is well endowed physically, but is yet to get married. Hear her:”I don’t know why people always seem to be putting pressure on others to get married. When the marriage doesn’t work out, they will be the first to criticize you. My parents are not pressurising me to get married; my family is not pressurising me to get married either. So, I don’t see why I should let anyone pressurise me into marriage.”










Franca Brown


Popular Nollywood thespian, Franca Brown recently spoke about her single status and her readiness to get married if marriage comes her way. The actress who is over 40 has a daughter. Speaking to Vanguard recently, she said “I believe in marriage. I was born into a home, I have a father and a mother. But marriage has not come my way, and I don’t think it’s yet a challenge to me. When it comes my way, it comes. As a woman I am ready for marriage”.




That’s okay for now, biko!

If we are not careful, we could go on and on!

All I know is that people should free people who are married abeg! This marriage of a thing is over rated.

Some people who are married cannot claim that they are happier than single peeps…so therefore, free this matter.








Photo credit: Gistus

Kai! See me laughing in chinese!

Anyway, what can I possibly do except to help my girls who are single and searching find a boy man!

This is what Denrele tweeted this Saturday…

“How many weddings will I continue to attend this year sef? Heading out to 3 weddings today! I get the message already, Time for me to go marry!”

So who wants to be the lucky woman?! I will be your pastor, don’t fear!


Photo credit: InformationNg

Peeps, I just got a mail from one of you guys and she desperately needs your advice.


I am an avid reader of your blog and I need some advice, although, my issue does not have as much drama and suspense as the ones you post!

I am a single lady in my mid 30s, I have spent most of my life in Lagos. I had all my primary, secondary and tertiary education here as well. In short, I am a Lagos girl. Presently, I reside in the Northern part of Nigeria and have been for 4 years now since my transfer from Lagos.

The place I reside is more or less a ‘glorified village’ and a great big challenge for me to settle down in, I only get to see only Mallams. To make matters worse, no social life here, no place to even ‘play’ or relax…it is that bad.

I know you may ask,”why can’t she resign?” I can’t because my job is a Federal one with a pretty good pay, not to mention the job security that comes with it and other perks. As age is not on my side, my fear is that there is also no guarantee of finding my ‘husband’ and I really do not want to be reminded about my ‘singlehood’ by my married friends. Besides, all my efforts to get a transfer has been in vain, due to the pressure from my aged parents for me to resign or get a transfer back to Lagos, where there is at least a flicker of hope.

The funny thing is that even though I am entitled to a 4 week leave, is that enough to start a relationship?

My confusion is this: Should I resign to pursue my dream of getting married or stay on the job?

*My dear, if truth be told…only you can really answer this question because you are the only one who knows which is more important, staying on the job or getting married? I think you should pray more for God’s direction to show you where your husband is, whether in Lagos or in the north with any of those Mallams. LOL! For all you know, maybe your ‘husband’ is in the North! Like seriously.

Being in your mid 30s does not make you a ‘spring chicken’ so I understand your throes and woes. You don’t necessarily have to go to a club or party to find your husband! No, not at all!  Your ‘husband’ can come from anywhere. He may even be in the same office as you are. Pray sha.