I CAN’T GO HOME AGAIN…BECOMING INHABITABLE REALLY!

wpid-wp-1418668879567.jpegGoing home is fast becoming a nightmare.

I can’t even spend one minute with my folks and all I hear is “Marriage this, marriage that!” Am I the only single person on earth? Am I the only person who has been unlucky with men? Should I just bring anybody home as husband? I wish they could just free me…

I’m seriously beginning to get sick and tired of hearing anything ‘Marriage’ or ‘Husband’.

THE WORLD SHOULD LET ME BE!

While my mother was busy telling me about her friend whose son just got back from the United States (that got my interest though…who no like better thing?!), my mind kept filtering back at the outing I had over the weekend. Damn! I messed up BIG TIME!! My mother can keep yacking away for all I care, when there are more important issues to brood about…

This weekend would have been a hit for me, but No, I just had to judge a book by its cover! I went to the club with my friends…Yes Remi and Uzor (don’t blame me, they seem to know all the happening places and people) and there I met one ‘short Devil’, as ugly as what I can’t describe! He had the guts to ask me for a minute. Even when I ignored him, he was still persistent, until I insulted the living daylight out of him. The guy was so embarrassed that he decided to leave early. By then my friends had gathered around to ask what was up.

Someone please don’t ask me what ride he came in, or the number of body guards with him…OR WHO HIS FATHER IS?! JESUS EH!!…a day I will never forget! If only, he hadn’t been so short and ugly. If only he hadn’t been so shabbily dressed. Or is that how real life Princes dress now?! I don’t get!

Mscheew!…and my mother is here talking about a ‘hungry boy’ from United States.

That’s how I lost my chance of ‘settling down’!…back to square one na!

SEE WHAT THESE NOLLYWOOD DIVAS THINK ABOUT MARRIAGE

Excerpts from VANGUARD

Empress Njamah

Empress Njamah 

Sexy and daring Nollywood actress, Empress Njamah says she can never contemplate dating a poor man, let alone consider getting married to one. When she was asked recently to talk about marriage,she discounted the issue with a wave of the hand, saying, “Please, marriage is not the thing on my mind right now”.

She went further to say “I can’t marry my colleague! Boring living in the same house with someone you know his job so well as well as his income! Should you be more popular or get richer than the man, then you are in trouble as this could be dangerous. If you are on six figures and he is on less, there is trouble. Men and their egos!”.

 

  Rita Dominic

I just love this chic…too classy!

She recently disclosed that she will settle down once she meets the right person as she didn’t choose to remain single. She once accused the media of ruining her relationships, each time she has any looking good for the altar.

Abi O! No one chooses to be single jare!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Benita Nzeribe

When it comes to marriage though, she has not been lucky. When asked why she is yet to get married, actress Benita Nzeribe said: “If I have to say the truth, marriage is not all about money or the little things of life. We should marry for real love. That is why I see myself as being able to marry whoever I am in love with, no matter his status in life. That is to say,even if the guy is a wheelbarrow pusher, I would marry him as long as my heart is with him.”

 

 

Ebube Nwagbo

Ebube seems only interested in concentrating on her jobs and selling her Posh Hair products. Hear what she said about her single status: “I am still single.

“The reason is that I am someone who has always believed in love. It is a big deal to me so if I have to do it, it has to be right. I am a strong believer of love. I get lots of proposals; it is so crazy I do not know who to give a chance to. I think it is a price I have to pay for stardom.

“Sometimes when anybody comes my way, I do not know who wants to be with me for the right reasons. I believe when that day comes, I will definitely figure out who that person is. It is not easy.

“What I should be talking about is not relationship but marriage. I want to go into marriage and be in it for ever. No one goes into marriage thinking of divorce, but it happens. We try our best.

“I think I am kind of scared, but I just have to give it a try whether I like it or not. It just has to happen and happen right; at the right time.”

 

 

Genevieve Nnaji

The Imo State-born screen diva is a single-mother who revealed in an interview that she is still single because she is afraid of divorce. “If I get married, I really want to stay married and staying married is not an easy thing. It means you are completely in tune with your partner. It means you have found your soulmate because you will have to be able to stand a lot of disappointments that would definitely come but then again you have to learn to forgive,” she said.

 

 

 

Halima Abubakar

Halima Abubakar is one actress that is well endowed physically, but is yet to get married. Hear her:”I don’t know why people always seem to be putting pressure on others to get married. When the marriage doesn’t work out, they will be the first to criticize you. My parents are not pressurising me to get married; my family is not pressurising me to get married either. So, I don’t see why I should let anyone pressurise me into marriage.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Franca Brown

 

Popular Nollywood thespian, Franca Brown recently spoke about her single status and her readiness to get married if marriage comes her way. The actress who is over 40 has a daughter. Speaking to Vanguard recently, she said “I believe in marriage. I was born into a home, I have a father and a mother. But marriage has not come my way, and I don’t think it’s yet a challenge to me. When it comes my way, it comes. As a woman I am ready for marriage”.

 

 

 

That’s okay for now, biko!

If we are not careful, we could go on and on!

All I know is that people should free people who are married abeg! This marriage of a thing is over rated.

Some people who are married cannot claim that they are happier than single peeps…so therefore, free this matter.

 

 

 

 

 

 

JUST TURNED 30…AND STILL VERY SINGLE!

I just turned 30.

Am I scared? Very much so.

I’m so scared of winding up alone in my ‘old’ years…no husband, no baby,…not even a boyfriend! At this rate, I might end up visiting the ‘sperm bank’, to get me a baby! At least, if I don’t have a husband, I should have a baby.

I’m wondering if something is wrong with me. Maybe being a ‘good’ girl isn’t paying off after all. Remembering how I was raised, the good catholic girl, I was never allowed as much freedom to go on dates or even hang out with my cool friends, and so is beginning to have a toll on my social life (needs mega revamping!!).

At my age really, I should have my phone buzzing like there’s no tomorrow, endless instant messaging from loads of guys, guys queuing up to take me out on a date…but no, what do I get?…the ‘deafening’ silence of my room!

Yes, I am bitter because contrary to what my mother taught me, it’s obvious the ‘good’ boys don’t like the ‘good’ girls! They prefer bad girls…and really, I hate to admit this but I’can’t stand the ‘good’ boys either…simply ‘bauring’!

And to think that just few years ago, 5 years to be precise, I had planned my life out – married at 25, baby number 1 at 26, baby number 2 at 28, and then probably round it off with another one for the road at 30.

Yikes, 30!!…still here, no man, no baby, no relationship! So now, I’m gonna search for my man in my own terms!

 

FINDING LOVE ON FACEBOOK

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Image Credit: Being Latino

Dear NHW,

I really love your blog. I stumbled on it on Google and since then I’ve been stuck.

I am writing to seek your advice on my relationship because I trust you will tell me as it is.

One day, while I was going through my Facebook page, I got a friend request from a guy. I was reluctant in accepting the request since we didn’t seem to have mutual friends. What I did was to checkout his profile and other photos of his, I won’t lie, it was quite impressive. He’s a Nigerian based in America, single and works as an Engineer in a renowned company. From what I saw in his photos, he seemed to have a lot of friends.

To cut story short, after I accepted his friend request, we became good friends, chatting like ‘no man’s business’ for the past 6 months. He wants to take our relationship to another level but my friends are skeptical about it. They tell me it’s dangerous because he might not be who he claims to be. That there are guys out there who profile girls like me because of my status. I am 39 years old working as a manager in a big organisation.

I really want to settle down and have a family. My guy wants to meet up with me this December and my friends and some members of my family totally disagree.

Please, is there anything I’m missing out in terms of being cautious. What do you honestly think about my meeting him?!

*My dear blog reader, I won’t lie to you. You just have to be mega careful. There are so many evil men out there looking for single, rich and somewhat ‘desperate’ girls to marry. It’s so easy to deceive people through social media, more so, when you do not have mutual friends to enquire from. I’m not saying good relationships do not evolve from social media, but it is very very rare. The guy can move from being Prince Charming to The Beast!

Hire a private investigator if you must or better still always confirm whatever gist he serves you…get details of who his family members are, as well as his friends. Do a follow through, do not just take his words for it.

If you must allow him to come visit you, then it must always be done in public, even through out his stay.

I wish you all the best in your new found love. #IStillDontTrustFacebookLove