IS MY DAUGHTER BECOMING A ‘MINI-MONSTER’?

This is the exact look she had on her face

Please guys, do not pay particular attention to the title of this article! Lol! It doesn’t mean my daughter is one, it’s just that she got me bothered and thinking if she was becoming one.

I really worried a bit and I meant to ask you guys your opinion on how I could handle the issue – whether I should ignore her comment or follow through after addressing it. Okay, enough talk…let me just spill it.

One time, I was just walking past from the living room to the kitchen(you know why! *eyes rolling* kitchen is for cooking and you know I hate cooking!). Anyways, the way my 6 year old was ‘consumed’ by what she was watching, totally caught my interest and so curiously, I stayed to watch and understand. She was watching one of those Disney cartoons that usually end happily, but I still asked her.

“Mummy, what are you watching with so much concentration? It looks interesting”, I asked. ‘Mummy’ is a pet name I use on either of my girls.

“Yes, it’s very interesting mummy. It’s Frozen, the new one. The part 2. But it’s almost finished”, she chuckled while she glanced up very briefly and then continued watching. But then, I noticed her countenance changed almost immediately and so I proceeded to enquire again.

“So, why do you have that look on your face nah?” She ignored me and just kept saying “Please don’t kiss her. Please don’t kiss her. Why does it have to end happily all the time. Can’t someone just die? Maybe the prince or the princess?!”

And this one…

I was so shocked and had to take a closer look at my daughter…Is she really mine or is this a mini-monster evolving?

Still curious, I had to ask, “Mama, what do you mean does it have to end happily?! Every normal kid loves happy endings. That’s what they look forward to. That’s my best part! How can you wish for someone to die in a cartoon? You are freaking me out?!”

Obviously, finding it funny, she explained, “Oh Ooo! I just hate it when they always have to kiss and get married in the end! Mummy it’s becoming boring and really lame! I still love happily-ever after, don’t worry”.

“Please O! I am worried. How can you wish for such a thing. That’s evil! The only cartoon where someone died was Pocahontas and people where not happy about it and now you are wishing for something similar. I am worried!”

My daughter regretted winding me…when I start my ‘lectures’, I usually don’t end! *Hehehe* And then suddenly I heard, “Okay, okay, mummy, I get it! I don’t want anybody to die!” Then she runs out of the living room. That was rude…but I chose to ignore. My point had been made.

But you know, I couldn’t help replaying what she said in my mind. Has the world changed so much that a little child, who is supposed to be perceived to be pure and innocent, could wish for something as terrible as that? Is there something I am doing that should make her not want ‘love’? Or am I missing some negative behaviour?

I want to believe the kids of today have not changed just because of one ‘crazy’ incidence with my daughter. Anyway, I decided I need to make her watch more of happy stories.

Totally shook up!

Happy Sunday peeps! 

IBINABO FIBERESIMA SHOULD TAKE IT EASY O!

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Source: VANGUARD

Yes, I know Ibinabo Fiberesima, President of the Actors Guild of Nigeria, just got married after 5 kids from previous relationships. Yes, I know she’s very happy and besides, it’s not always easy to find a young Nigerian man who agrees to marry a woman with that many kids that don’t even belong to him! So, really? Why shouldn’t she be happy?!

Anyway,  why I say she should take it easy, is because,  the rate at which she is gushing about this her new found love, is too much abeg! You know, these men cannot be trusted!  Sometimes,  too much love can get into their head and before you even say “Jack Robinson”, they start singing a different tune!

And again,  check it…it’s not as if Ibinabo is someone that a lot of people, especially women, like, talkless of love! All these ‘gushing’, will soon make one jobless woman out there to take it upon herself to dig up dirt on this her husband!

What am I saying?…she should remove herself from the spotlight when it comes to her marriage!

Abi, what do you guys think?

DAKORE AKANDE GUSHES ABOUT HER MARRIAGE

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* I just love this chic*

Dakore Akande, the screen diva, married to Olumide Akande, son of Ibadan-born billionaire, Chief Harry Akande, gushes about her marriage in a special interview culled from PUNCH.

On why she has been away from acting

Yes, I have been off the screen for a few years now, but I am gradually working my way back. It is not easy to be away from work and everybody knows; but when you are back to work, it is still hard for everyone to know. That is partly my fault because I have not granted interviews- I am very wary of the press and my words have been taken out of context. I have been busy working on various things including working with the United Nations

On how she met her hubby
We met in Lagos. I just relocated from London and he just returned from Chicago. We got talking because he wanted me to present a television show. I did not get the job but I did get the dude. It was work-related but we found out we connected. We were friends for a while before we started dating. Then, I was not out for a date. I liked him for his confidence and he gave me my space too. He was a real gentleman and well-spoken. When it was time for the engagement, I knew it would happen, but I did not know when. I knew what it was like to make a mistake because my parents were not together and I needed to be sure. I was career driven but not driven about marriage.

“The proposal was really nice. He got down on his knees and proposed and people were emotional. Shortly after that, we got married. We had Ayomide, our first daughter, who is now three, and Dasola, who is 10 months old now.

On how she mixes marriage and work
It is extremely difficult, I do not know how women make it happen but somehow we make it happen. I just take it one day at a time and try not to be too stressed. I learnt to plan ahead and that is the only way. I have a great support network in my nanny, mum and my husband because sometimes when I am not present with the kids, I have to make sure there is someone who is competent to do that.

“It is tough because when I am out all day and I return home, I still have to be a mum and a wife. I am thankful that there is more meaning to my life as opposed to when I was single and in the movies.

On how her husband deals with her job
He is a little more reserved than I am and he is confident in himself. Though he understands the nature of my job, he does not feel threatened by my exposure. However, I have learnt to be more inclusive because I was in the klieglight alone. Now, I introduce him as my husband when we go out together. We have a three-way conversation and I learnt that by being with him and he also learnt that he has to step aside sometimes. He understands me, we try to stay mindful of each other and support each other. I appreciate that a lot.

On how she deals with rumors
They peddled all sorts of stories-His parents did not like me and that I quit acting. But it’s not possible that I would be married if my father-in-law did not like me. I was not even 40 years old yet and people started calling me an ex-actress. It was hard for me! But I decided to live my life and I stopped paying attention to maintain my sanity. How could anyone think I would quit my job because I got married? They said this because I married into a wealthy family, but I still have my purpose and goals that I want to achieve.

Dakore’s idea and pre-requisites of a successful marriage
“Celebrity marriages are not different. The only reason is that people are looking at you. The challenges are the same but are amplified in celebrity marriages. That puts a lot of pressure on the union. The first thing is to marry your friend. You have to marry for the right reason. I married for love; someone I am totally in awe of and respect. It is difficult, but when you have God, there is a balance that comes with it. It is fun and challenging. It is easy to get frustrated but people need to remember their vows.”

Erasing the talks that she cut her dreadlocks because of marriage, the stylish actress corrects: “I made up my mind that I wanted to wear dreadlocks, and when I was tired of it, I decided to cut it. My husband did not want me to cut my hair; he wanted our children to meet me with the hair. I dance to the beat of my own drum and my path is different from every other person’s. I have my own mind; if I let people shape my opinions of myself, I will not be authentic to myself.”

How she handles the stress of marital life

Sometimes, we go out to dinner or have lunch outside after church. We also go to the beach,” she adds. To maintain her svelte shape, this is what she does: “I work out a bit; I had to tone it down because I have achieved the weight I want, especially after the babies. I have done yoga on and off for about 10 years. My mum used to have a yoga book. I did more of that and martial arts when I went to London. Also, I set out not to look like someone who has two children.

*Now that’s a chic after my own heart*

SUMMARY OF MY RESTFUL TRIP

wpid-wp-1417621098521.jpegAll those times it seemed like I had abandoned you guys, I was on a major break from the hustle and bustle of Lagos life.

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A visit to one of my awesome friends…missed her loads!

 

If you live in Lagos, you are constantly on ‘Play’ mode, no ‘Pause’ button for you. For the first time in our 11years of being married, my hussy decided it was time for us to rekindle…on one condition! On the condition that we do not include shopping. How would that be possible?! Who travels without shopping?! He claimed that that would kill the essence of the holiday…to rest. Yes, I must admit, shopping is stressful or can be, especially when you have to include people on the list. Oh! well, I just had to admit and accept the offer…sebi I na me nah! *wink*

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Some times, these our husbands are soo sweet, other times, you think you may have married a demon! I felt like a princess on this trip…getting up whenever I so desired, having meals at the snap of my fingers…I just wished it would never end.

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Me and my coz! Love her to bits! My dream is to fatten her up!

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Gosh! Almost got drowned in food…this is not even half of it!

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Just fooling around!

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Me with my awesome sister inlaw. Had to make that cold trip to Sunderland!

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Gifts from Gerald and Jemu

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I must be dreaming right?!

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My sister inlaw just hates it…says it looks like an ‘Nna’ cap!

Other things happened, that is best left unpublished. I don’t want to be the cause of someone’s blindness!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I COULD STARE AT PICTURES LIKE THESE FOREVER!

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I just love ‘Romance’. The word itself is so romantic…kai!

Just checkout these pics of Tuface and Annie Idibia…staring into each other’s eyes. I can’t remember when last my hussy looked me in the eyes like that…almost as if he’s afraid to look at me sef! #justsaying

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If only all husbands can just keep calm and look into their wives’ eyes…if only!

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