But really, aren’t you tired?  Must you be in a relationship for the sake of being in one? Or so that tongues will not wag?… Forgetting that whether or not you are in a relationship, tongues must surely wag!

Look, 2016 is just a few hours away, and so you must not even think it, to carry any ‘baggage’ into this ‘frosh’ year!…except if you don’t mind having a ‘hunch’!

If you’ve been seeing a girl who hasn’t given you an answer to the question you asked since donkey years, and she keeps telling she’s confused and all that blah blah, please drop her like it’s hot.

If you have a guy who keeps popping up once in a while to play the role of a phantom boyfriend, just so that he can get ‘some’ but he’s never there for you emotionally, financially or otherwise,… Do I need to spell out what you ought to do?!

If you are a guy and you are a girl, and you guys keep doing what lovers do but you keep claiming he doesn’t mean much to you or she doesn’t mean anything to you, then what the hell are you both doing?!

I know we could go on and on and on talking about ‘nameless’ relationships, and I also know that there are some crazy folks out there who run away from any sort of commitment, but then again the question is… Is that what you truly desire, a no-commitment relationship?

Like I will say again, 2016 is just a few hours away, for how long do you want to live a life of misery and loneliness? Now is the time to pray your way into a more serious, focused and committed relationship. If by now, you can’t categorically define the relationship in which you are in… Take a walk, and don’t stop!



Oh my goodness! I’m so excited writing to you guys about what I’m about to tell you…Yessss! I’m in love…so in love! I never ever ‘esperedit’!

You, for a long time now, I had actually given up on the hope of finding love, in fact, I had begun a campaign against love! I didn’t think that word existed, let alone the feelings. Now I believe that God indeed is the Hope for the Hopeless! It’s not like I never believed in God, I just thought that He had not made any arrangement for marriage in my destiny. And to think I so badly needed a baby, one to call my own…okay, that’s the biology clock ticking.

I attended a seminar one time on ‘Fertility’ and how it decreases with age. I left that conference hall feeling mentally ‘suicidal’…whatever that means! Only for me to hear a deep voice right behind me,”Did you come for the conference too?” I rolled my eyes before I turned to see the ‘fool’ talking. I tried smiling but replied with a lot of sarcasm, “Then why would I be in the premises? Do I look like a photographer?!”

“Woah! Easy lady…why so bitter? I only asked a simple question. I know you may be in a bad mood, but at least, my good looks should have done the trick!” he retorted.

That one got me my people, that’s when I had to stop to take a real close look. Let me just have an idea who might be ‘talking’. I looked at this guy from head to toe, and didn’t even know when I burst out laghing! This laugh, I swear was not meant to go on for long, but I laughed so hard, I had tears in my eyes. The poor guy must have been serious when he said he looked good.

“Ehen, you were saying?!” still trying so hard not to laugh. “I like you O, I won’t lie. You are so funny.Just tell me you are kidding sha…as per looking good”.

It took him like a few minutes to gather his composure. I really felt sorry for him. Really, he looked good, as in handsome, but gosh, I don’t know where he shopped or who his lousy wife was…

Before, I knew what hit me peeps, conversation started. Apart from the fact Femi had a warped sense of style, he was the sweetest, funniest and most intelligent guy that I had ever met.

All these times I have not been writing, it’s because I have been spending quality time with him. It’s so easy having a conversation with him…

I’m sorry, I have to go now, Femi is at the door. Yes O, he’s my world. Will feel you guys in later. In the mean time, pray for me, that this lasts!



I won’t lie, I was actually shocked when I heard that Iyanya was dating again…but then when I heard the chic’s history of dating, I decided, that they were probably made for each other! Ever heard of Freda Francis?! Heard she’s been linked to several other men, like Don Jazzy (my sweet guy, could never hurt a fly!). Any way, a woman’s past don’t matter really.


She’s a fine girl, no doubt, but she should still be CAREFUL!Because she’s a woman, and will probably be on the receiving end, she had better wear glasses and contact lens, so that she will be able to read the writing on the wall, when and if the time comes. *I can’t shout*

I totally don’t want to give up on him, because there is God! But that guy, doesn’t just respect chics.

Read the interview he had one time in February, with Punch Newspaper here

…Didn’t he swear he’ll have nothing to do with female celebrity? So who’s this lady?… Someone that works in a canteen?! #justasking



Now, I’m beginning to get ‘disgusted’ …too much ‘fakeness’ in the air!

I know some of you might say that my time has passed or that I’m plain ‘old-school’, but it won’t stop me from expressing how I feel about the recent trends on marriage proposals.

The manner in which guys are proposing to their girlfriends is so annoying… Too much drama! If care is not taken, you guys will soon hear how a girl died from swallowing her engagement ring, that her boyfriend put in her drink! #justsaying God forbid that it will be any girl’s portion. All I’m saying is that guys should chill a bit on how they propose, all for the ‘camera, lights, action’!


Photo credit : Naij.com

The other day, that’s how I read that a guy proposed to his girlfriend under the sea pool! What if he had drowned?! Mscheew…

Another one I found totally ridiculous, was the one I heard about how a guy borrowed money from family and friends (maybe bank too, who knows?), all for the sake of putting up a marriage proposal ‘show’! After everything, not only was he begging to sustain his life, he couldn’t meet up with repaying his debts! If he’s already broke from just mere proposal, I don’t want to imagine what will happen for introduction, proper engagement or wedding!

Guys, this is just an advice from a big sister, just manage and see me as one. You don’t need all the paparazzi to just propose. The true test of your love for your girlfriend or fiance, is how you take care of her in marriage.

I hope I haven’t opened a can of worms?! *hehehe



My dear, there’s nothing someone will not see or hear.

Just the other day at the clinic, I met a young lady, well not so young like that, who, as far as I am concerned came to the clinic to lament.

Apparently, she was having trouble sleeping. She broke up with her boyfriend about 6 months ago but started dating his close friend 2 months ago. She doesn’t feel it’s right, even though the relationship has been going on smoothly.

I’m sorry, but the first thing that came to my mind was, why would anyone want to date her ex-boyfriend’s friend. That’s low. You need to keep people like that at an arm’s length. It just doesn’t make sense at all!

How are you sure they’ve not had a bet on you? Maybe, your ex has discussed your bedroom skills with his friends and it’s only one of them that has the guts to come check you out.

See, I’m not asking you to keep malice with anyone, I’m just asking you to maintain some self-respect for yourself. No matter how kind or romantic he appears, do not give into his advances. Keep the guy at an arm’s length. Be a ‘friend’ from a distance.

So, when the lady in the clinic asked my opinion in the matter, I simply told her that I didn’t buy the idea. She felt relieved hearing it from me, because according to her, I wouldn’t be the first person telling her same.

So, would you date your Ex’s friend?