Honestly speaking, I’m tired of people beating about this question! It’s not rocket science now…

A woman will cheat on a man who is:
– physically
– emotionally
– financially
unavailable! It could be for any or all of the above reasons. It just depends on what she feels is lacking in her relationship.

It’s only by the special grace of God that a woman may decide not to cheat. It’s not because she’s superhuman or because she’s afraid of  her  partner. Men, please just don’t get it twisted. Women are very committed beings but the minute they sense they are being taken for granted, they change course.

It’s easy for people to label some women as being bad or a cheater, but trust me every cheating woman has a history! That cheating was once a faithful wife. It’s just sad to note that the ‘good’ wife may also have a history … You just watch and see.

Cheating, as far as I’m concerned, originates from a gradual process of disconnection from a spouse, be it temporary or permanent disconnection… It’s still a disconnection!

Most women don’t plan to cheat on their partners, except for those who plan to do it out of revenge. Once that ‘disconnect’ earlier talked about, is there, then a ‘void of need’ is formed. That need is subjective, that is, the need may depend on what the woman considers lacking in her relationship.

In all honesty, there really shouldn’t be any excuse for cheating, but unfortunately, ‘cheating’ presents itself as an option…at the ‘right’ time, ‘right’ place and with the ‘right’ person. All because of what? All because the woman just wants to feel that ‘void of need’…without necessarily thinking about it.

But you know, it’s actually easy to prevent a woman from cheating…very easy. All the man needs to do is find out her ‘need’ or better still, her ‘love language’…and fill it…Voilá, she’s bound to that man for ever.

Trust Nigerian men particularly, they don’t understand any of these, and are not willing to. They just want to eat their cake and have it. They want to keep a ‘good’ wife at home who should be blind to all their rubbish… That’s submissiveness, the type they want, not so?

Just so you guys know, all it takes, is for that ‘good’ wife to stumble on the ‘right’ man… a conversation being the prelude. *cough* *cough* Then, you’ll be hearing things like, “Oh, I enjoyed your company. We should do this again… ” The only problem is that, it may not be ordinary conversation again…let your mind do the maths! Lol!

In my years of experience with all sorts of women…their needs are practically almost the same thing!

If you are a man in a relationship or a husband in a troubled marriage reading this stuff, it’s not too late to do a turn around.

And for all of you reading this stuff and wondering, “How does she know all these stuff? Has she cheated?”…all I can say is that you are missing the point and I suggest you start afresh and stay focused! *amebo* 😛



  LOL! This life is just crazy!

I was generally doing my normal stuff when a message came in from my BBM group. Naturally, I opened it and this is what I saw…

A wife asked her husband to drop her off at a friends house, where a wedding reception was taking place. He responded that he would be too busy throughout the day in the office, and gave her some money to use as taxi for transport. He left for the office. The wife took a Taxi to the wedding reception,there she met a fine Girl and they got talking to each other. Soon they became friends. In the evening when everyone was leaving, the Girl asked the Woman how she was going home. She replied that her husband was too busy in the office to pick her up so she would use a taxi. The Girl responded; “My boyfriend brought me here and would be coming to pick me up. I just spoke to him on the phone and he’s on his way. Why don’t you join me in his car and we would drop you at your house”The woman agreed. A few minutes later, her husband’s car arrived. The Girl jumped into the front passengers seat of the car and asked the Woman to sit at the backseat, which she did confused and perturbed. Then the Girl introduced her new friend to her boyfriend. When the man turned around to greet the woman, he recognized her as his wife. Nothing much was said along the way. He dropped the wife at home first as planned and proceeded to drop the Girl at her house………The question now is: If you were the wife, what would you do when your husband returns home? If you were the husband, what would you say to your wife when you return home. Please open discussion

When I finished reading this piece, I smiled…an evil one of course! This will definitely cost my husband, not our marriage O, but money!

For me, I’ll just pretend that I’m oblivious of what is going on and play along…I’ll allow him to drop me off and then he can then go drop off his girlfriend. All through the drive home, I’ll show no emotions. Sebi, he will want to come back home, but the problem would be, which house?! I won’t let him come into the house until he credits my account with 1million naira…no begging, no paying in installments. In short, NO ALERT, NO ENTRY!

What will you do, be honest!


Dear NHW,

I’m actually rolling on the floor laughing. I am having a swell time.

I have been married to my hubby for 8 years and we are blessed with 4 boys which I had vaginally. After my last boy, my marriage went from bad to worse, as in, getting my hubby’s attention over the years has been very difficult. To have sex with him is even on ‘appointment’ basis. The rate at which my marriage was going, I knew that if I didn’t do something about it, it would move from worse to worst.

I sought the advice of one of my very close friends and she told me what to do. As funny as this sounds, it was working very well and I don’t want what I am doing to end.

I got a new phone and sim card, then opened new accounts on all the social media, putting all my best body parts as the display/profile picture, especially on facebook, whatsapp and  bbm. I then sent a friend request to my husband. The silly man did not waste any time in accepting my requests. At first, he played hard to get but I still relented. Because my identity is not revealed to him, I went back to being the way I used to be with him that made him fall in love with me. I flirted with him badly, and he keeps falling more and more.

NHW, you won’t believe I send pictures of my p&%**y to him every morning and if you see how excited he gets. Can you imagine, he does not recognize ‘it’!The relationship has been going on strong for 6 months. In that 6 months, if you know how much he has sent to me. He has been begging to see my face, but I know that if I try that…the relationship will be over.

Back as his wife, his attention to me has greatly waned but he has been very polite and somewhat ‘nice’. He now locks his phone, as if…

NHW, I would rather have my hubby as a boyfriend than a husband. What do you think? Should I continue or should I stop?

*OMG!! Dear reader, this is absolutely brilliant! I would never have thought about it. It’s funny how your husband does not recognise your VGG. I’m sure he represents a lot of Nigerian men who wouldn’t either, even if it was right in their faces! If you should continue…I wouldn’t know O! But if I were in your shoes I will definitely continue! …at least for the financial gains! LOL!

On a more serious note, is this really how you want to continue with your husband? Because, I feel it’s not the real deal! You should work on your communication skills if you ask me and of pray for God’s wisdom! The day you decide to reveal yourself, please do not hesitate to give us gist on the outcome.