WHEN COUPLES START TO WASH THEIR DIRTY LINENS IN PUBLIC…

I wonder what’s going on in the The Balogun house?

I really should look away and continue minding my business but my conscience has gotten the better of me, considering the fact that there are a million of our young ones who are on social media and ‘following’ certain celebrities, seeing them as role models! It’s fast becoming a norm for people to take their problems out on social media… IT’S NOT NORMAL PLEASE!! More so,  the married ones! Airing your marital issues on social media, involving the whole world is definitely abnormal. There are a list of professionals that will be willing to treat your situation e.g psychologists, psychiatrists, marriage counselors… Even pastors.

I woke to see that Teebillzz,  Tiwa Savage’s husband, was having a suicidal rant on social media… Blaming Tiwa and Co for his trials and tribulations… Like seriously?! At least, thank God he recognizes that he’s problem may be spiritual beyond what he thinks! This is a typical feature of a disgruntled unsuccessful- for- now human being!

Whatever happened to the phrase “Take it to the Lord in Prayer “?!

My 2 cents on the ongoing matter… As much as I hate to be judgemental:

1. If you chose to step down for your wife to pursue her dreams, then why are you complaining. A right thinking hubby should celebrate his wife’s successes.
2. Stop saying you made her to be what she is today… You are not, and can never be God! You were just an instrument God used to assist her then!
3. Stop gaining cheap popularity and cheap sympathy by tearing your wife down… You lose major points!
4. Suicide is never the way out. It only goes to show your true person… Selfish and conceited! It’s only selfish people and complete failures  that consider suicide as an option! Give your life to Christ. Jamal and your other kids will never be proud of you, infact they will hate you even after death. Leave good footprints!
5. Stop comparing what you have to what others have. You will continue to be ungrateful and discontented as long as you do so.
6. Now is the time to give your life to Christ.
7. Stop blaming people for failures… There’s still room for change.

Frankly speaking, I’m yet to see a perfect marriage but still loads of right thinking people don’t run to social media to solve it.

This is how I saw the post on Mr Balogun’s instagram page:

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So what do you guys think?

ENOUGH RESPECT FOR KHLOE KARDASHIAN

ENOUGH RESPECT FOR KHLOE KARDASHIAN

My respect for this chic just seems to be increasing day by day.  As much as a lot of people may not want to agree with me, I think that the Kardashian sisters have somewhat a good head on their shoulders.

Women generally should learn a thing or two from Khloe’s marital experience. She has only proven that:
1. Marriage is not easy… Can be emotionally, physically and mentally draining.
2. Marriage has more trying moments in the beginning and if couples are not careful in the decisions they make, the marriage could come to an abrupt end!
3. You, and only you have the answers to your marital issues, no matter how many people involved in the marriage.
4. A lot of communication and connecting is involved in achieving marital success.
5. In the first few years of marriage, a lot of questions about almost everything are raised, and which need to be answered. Don’t expect your spouse to be a mind reader. Just ask, and you shall be answered!

The beginning and end of gist is that Khloe and her estranged hubby, Lamar were spotted on Friday while they stepped out for dinner. According to sources, Khloe and Lamar are willing to give marriage another shot. Khloe is rather concentrating on building friendship…way to go girl.

I wish them all the best.

KHLOE AND LAMAR KINDA LOVE… PURR!

KHLOE AND LAMAR KINDA LOVE… PURR!

Honestly speaking, whether you accept what I’m about to write or not, Khloe Kardashian rocks!

If you ask me, I think she’s the most level headed of her sisters… Mehn, the chic is real!

Biggups girl! 😘😘😘

To love is easy but to stay in love comes with another story entirely. 😥 Now, to still hang around when you are supposedly separated from your partner is just… Epic! It takes sheer love to do this.

Khloe’s love for Lamar sort of reminds me of the song by R. City – Locked Away ft. Adam Levine. The lyrics of this song is so piercingly touching and it goes thus:

Adam Levine]
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn’t be strong
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?

[R. City]
Right about now
If I judge for life, man, would you stay by my side?
Or is you gonna say goodbye?
Can you tell me right now?
If I couldn’t buy you the fancy things in life
Shawty, would it be alright
Come on show me that you down
Now tell me would you really ride for me
Baby tell me would you die for me
Would you spend your whole life with me
Would you be there to always hold me down
Tell me would you really cry for me
Baby don’t lie to me
If I didn’t have anything
I wanna know would you stick around

[Adam Levine]
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn’t be strong
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?

R. City]
Let’s get it down
All I wanna is somebody who really don’t need much
A girl that I know I can trust
To be there when money low 
If I did not have nothing else to give but love
Would that even be enough
Gal, me need to know
Now tell me would you really ride for me
Baby tell me would you die for me
Would you spend your whole life with me
Would you be there to always hold me down
Tell me would you really cry for me
Baby don’t lie to me
If I didn’t have anything
I wanna know would you stick around

[Adam Levine]
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn’t be strong
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?

[R. City]
Tell me tell me would you want me
Tell me tell me would you call me
If you knew I wasn’t balling
Cause I need girl who’s always by my side
Tell me tell me do you need me
Tell me tell me do you love me
Or is it just tryna play me
Cause I need a girl to hold me down for life

[Adam Levine]
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn’t be strong
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?

[Adam Levine]
If I got locked away
And we lost it all today
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?
If I showed you my flaws
If I couldn’t be strong
Tell me honestly would you still love me the same?

…you see what I’m saying? Wasn’t I right?

My goodness, marriage is not easy! Even when you have declared you are moving on, you can’t help but look back to see if your partner is okay without you or to see if there’s a chance you might get back together. Trust me, I’m sure most people want their marriages to work.

What am I saying? Khloe has proven that she still loves Lamar despite his flaws!

Now, how many of you think that there’s a high possibility of reconciliation between Khloe and Lamar?

*Every man breathing, should start appreciating a good woman in his life! * *hiss*

IYANYA, DATING AGAIN?!

IYANYA, DATING AGAIN?!

I won’t lie, I was actually shocked when I heard that Iyanya was dating again…but then when I heard the chic’s history of dating, I decided, that they were probably made for each other! Ever heard of Freda Francis?! Heard she’s been linked to several other men, like Don Jazzy (my sweet guy, could never hurt a fly!). Any way, a woman’s past don’t matter really.

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She’s a fine girl, no doubt, but she should still be CAREFUL!Because she’s a woman, and will probably be on the receiving end, she had better wear glasses and contact lens, so that she will be able to read the writing on the wall, when and if the time comes. *I can’t shout*

I totally don’t want to give up on him, because there is God! But that guy, doesn’t just respect chics.

Read the interview he had one time in February, with Punch Newspaper here

…Didn’t he swear he’ll have nothing to do with female celebrity? So who’s this lady?… Someone that works in a canteen?! #justasking

THE TRAGEDY OF BEING MARRIED TO EMEKA IKE

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I’m not trying to be judgmental here but this ‘Emeka Ike’  case is a typical example of what happens to any woman who is trying to have custody over her children, after a escaping a marriage filled with Domestic Violence.

See, I know for sure 2 wrongs don’t make a right and at the same time, no woman will just wake up one day and start accusing her husband of being physically violent or otherwise. In fact, most often t than not, Nigerian women like to protect their husbands, and even cover up their mess.

But it takes only a sensible woman to save herself from a domestic violence situation, no matter the cost. It is only a woman who is alive that can try to then get her children…but from a very safe distance.

Emeka Ike’s marital issues is something I’ve been trying so hard not to talk about. What saddens me is the way society frowns at a married woman who flees from her home, no matter the reason. See how long it’s taking the court in granting the woman’s request! If a wife says she’s not interested, then she’s not interested.
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And I mean the role Emeka’s mom is playing in all these ongoing brouhaha, shouldn’t shock people. Every woman should not foolishly think that it is every mother inlaw that has their backs when the chips are down! Mba nunnu! Whether she likes it or not, you are still the outsider, therefore don’t expect that she will quarrel with her son over you! It’s a matter of “soldier come, soldier go”!

Emma, Emeka’s wife, said that the last she tried to speak with her kids, it was her mother inlaw who picked the call, and asked her to read Exodus 21!

Emma has moved out of the house for over 2 years now, in which no attempt has been made by her husband to reconcile. So naturally, the poor chic had to file for a divorce. Initially, Emeka’s counsel pleaded that the court give them 6months to allow for the possibility of a settlement. But Emma has cried that it’s too long, so the court shortened it to 2weeks. *Talk about a woman who knows what she wants*

I can imagine what she endured for 12 years! I’ve never been a fan of Emeka Ike sef! There was always something creepy about him, that tended towards violence, and this his wahala has just confirmed it. There a lot of actors that share the same spot like Emeka, that I seriously suspect may be violent to their wives – Emeka Enyiocha, Jim Iyke, ehm…these are the only 2 I can remember for now.

Anyway, I would love to use this medium to personally plead with women in Domestic Violence situations to please take a cue from Emma’s situation. It’s never too late to back out! Ignore what people may say to you, nothing else matters apart from your life! Save yourself first, then worry about other things later.

One more thing, if you’ve left the house completely, never agree for a meeting with your husband in the same house that you left…it may very well be the last time you will come out alive. So don’t make that mistake. If he wants to see you, then ensure the meeting is in a public place! #JustTakingPrecautions

Have an awesome day ahead.