MY ‘STORY’ FOR TIWA

MY ‘STORY’ FOR TIWA

Saying I’m broken hearted is just putting it mildly.

The way couples in general handle this big ‘job’ called marriage, is seriously becoming bothersome. It seems a lot of couples go into the marriage contract without actually understanding what they are signing for! They go in with a lot of expectations of and from each other, or hoping to change the other!

So, what do you girls do at the bridal showers?! Is it only for fancy?! Part of the reasons, bridal showers are held in Nigeria (I don’t know about other countries), is to get a ‘verteran’ in marriage to share her wealth of experience and wise words with the bride-to-be.

With the video Tiwa granted Pulse TV, barring everything about her marriage to the whole world, especially to people who never meant well for her, has proven the immaturity that comes with marriage. *Even the interviewer was so annoying, with her “at what point?… *

Really Tiwa? Did you need to? You are as guilty as TJ (as you fondly call him). Maybe if you had granted this interview after you have signed the divorce papers, I wouldn’t mind… But you are still married. You have not only started talking, you have succeeded in exposing your ‘period pant’! *excuse my French

That interview wasn’t necessary…my verdict. You didn’t need to prove your innocence! Those who know you (close family and friends) are not blind. A ‘third party’, being the world and Co. do not… I repeat…do not need to know “how you suffered”…take that gist to the Lord. Even if you needed to empower women, all those details where not needed.

Simple silence would have sealed TJ’s madness, teething problems, tantrums, name it what you like. Because the ship is sinking, doesn’t mean you should go down with it.

Tiwa dear, let me remind you… You are a Celebrity, and the world, including I, will be in your ‘bizness’… We are the 3rd party people… Please learn to keep your privates to yourself #greatadvicefromabigsis

Tiwa, remember I’ve always adviced you to choose your friends wisely. Who advised you to do this video, who? Just say, let me start on that person! Have we ever heard that person’s story?! Do you sef know that person’s story?! This ‘gist’ you have given us, is what it is GIST and will remain so!

At moments like this, you don’t need the ‘world’ consoling you. You should be spending time in getting yourself with closest family members and true friends, especially those that know the true story.

If want us to look at your situation critically from the world’s point of view, you should also take part in the blame. Did anybody force you into marrying TJ?! If they did, then you are justified. You are aware of all his shortcomings, yet you decided to sign that marriage contract. You chose to provide as a bread winner where he failed to! Did he put a knife to your neck? So please don’t start shouting foul play. Or abi he use ‘jazz’ for you? You knew he was ‘doing’ weed before marriage, now cocaine is shocking you?!

Did you think you were doing him a favour by marrying him, just because he helped you climb that ladder?! You simply short changed yourself. You do yourself! All these behaviour of TJ did not start today…even a blind man could tell he was and is a low-life.

See Tiwa, how you choose to make your bed,is how you will lie on it! If you don’t like, you can quietly leave!

Final advice, no more word from you again about this. Then, go and remove that rubbish video, instead, go and write police report for the record. Jamal doesn’t need to grow and see this 12 or 15 years later!

#yourbehaviornotcoolatall

I pray for God’s peace in both your lives. Amen.

LOOK WHO’S BREAKING UP…AGAIN!

LOOK WHO’S BREAKING UP…AGAIN!

Drew Barrymore and Will Kopelman have decided to split after just three years of marriage! At the least the good thing that came out of the marriage are her 2 beautiful daughters, Olive 3 and Frankie 23 months.

Let’s not forget that she was once married to Jeremy Thomas and the marriage lasted for a few weeks. Then she got married to Tom Green but a few months later, her then husband filed for a divorce.

I’m seriously trying not to be negatively judgemental but I can’t help but wonder what’s up with Drew?!  Really, if it’s not working for you after 3 men, then it’s either you are not cut out for marriage, or you have major problems!

Even though Drew’s being going on about ‘Trust’ and ‘Compromise’ …still trying to figure out what she’s talking about!

I sure hopes she finds what will truly make her happy!… And I love her O!

HOW COME I MISSED ALL THE SIGNS?!

image

Dear Naijahousewife,

I’m totally devastated. It just dawned on me that my boyfriend doesn’t love me for who I am, but what I am. I’m so broken. And my mum had been telling me this but I failed to listen to her. She saw it all.
I recently graduated from Medical school, so that makes a certified doctor. I met my boyfriend at a family function about 2 years ago and it was for me, Love at first sighting… I’ve never been in Love before or dated anyone. I practically idolised this guy.

I was raised as a simple middle class girl. Make up wasn’t and isn’t still a big deal for me. But my boyfriend always insisted I wear fake lashes, use the brightest lipstick and heaviest eye shadow! I never liked doing it but because people around me kept saying that for one’s relationship to last, you have to do what your partner likes. So I generally succumbed to all his demands.

My family didn’t like Who I had become. I was now more arrogant and generally cranky. Maybe because I knew I wasn’t really me in the relationship.

One time, my boyfriend took me on a dinner date so as to introduce me to his friends. I guess I needed their approval because they all took turns in assessing me. If not, how else would you explain the barrage of questions from each of them or the one that reached underneath the table to assess my toes!

I guess the scales were gradually falling off my eyes when I observed the way he would introduce me to anybody. He always started with my profession, emphasising it before saying my name!

I’ve come to a sad conclusion that my boyfriend never truly loved me. I think his ambition has always been to settle down with a medical doctor who was within his taste.

I’m not writing to get an advice from the house because I know what to do. I’ve decided to break up with him.
image

*My dear, you’ve made the right decision. I like ladies like you who love not only with their hearts but with their heads. See how sad you are in the relationship, so imagine it would get worse in marriage. I pray a lot of girls would do the same… Shine their eyes.

Any relationship that doesn’t permit you to be yourself is not worth keeping.

I wish you well in your future relationship.

THE PROBLEM WITH MR NICE GUY

image

I just finished listening to a friend who came to me to ‘cry’ out his eyes. Thankfully, he doesn’t read my blog!

He’s never been lucky with relationships. The women just keep leaving him! He’s presently going through a fifth break-up in less than 2 years.

This my friend really doesn’t deserve all these heartbreaks. But if truth be told, like said to him… He’s too nice for my liking. He can’t hurt a fly… Which isn’t cool. He should have killed like over 20 flies by now… Try asking some of my ‘evil’ male friends, or even my brothers.

I’ve told him that most good girls like bad boys, and vice versa. He should try ruffling his hair and wearing creased shirts! *hehehe*

Guys, if you are reading this post, and you are in a similar situation, heed my advice… Stop being too nice. Girls are disgusted with guys who have a problem saying “No”, who rush to their side everytime they cry ‘wolf’, who cry them a river when their girlfriends are in pain.

Even me I tire for the niceness. Sometimes, their girlfriends deliberately look for trouble, just so that they can spice up the relationship, but these guys just don’t get it, they start apologising or looking for ways to pacify them!

I’m not saying that you should be evil or wicked… Just be yourself. Na… What if your real self is being “Mr Nice Guy”…Uugh!
image

Okay, I got it… Mr Nice Guy, please look for a Miss Bad Girl! It’s more exciting!

WHAT IS KOURTNEY K.’S PROBLEM WITH SCOTT DISICK?

image

Women sha! Can they ever be satisfied?!

The world knows quite alright that Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick are not married but live-in lovers, who have 3 children together.

Now, the babe is shouting “Enough”, enough of what?! After all, whatever pain she is going through, she brought upon herself. She has ‘finally’ ended their I-don’t-know-what-to-call-this their relationship.

You guys should judge na…

  1. Just because she caught him flirting with his ex-girlfriend, Chloe Bartoli, she decided to break up with him on July 4! (Common Kourt, you could have at least waited a day after…not on America’s birthday)
  2. He’s been going around saying he’s single. (But, really, isn’t he?! He can’t obviously claim what he is not)
  3. Then I heard he left home while partying for a month (Now, Scott, I don’t support this one O! You should know you are a ‘married’ man!)

My question for Kourtney is that, “would it have been different if he was married?” 

My answer…”I don’t think so”. It wouldn’t have necessarily played out differently, maybe behaviour may be curbed a bit, but not completely. If you can’t handle him now you are guys are not married, then, you won’t be able to handle him in marriage.

You better keep your man…go get him.

My slogan: there is no guaranty that the next guy you date would be any better! Whether you like it or not, he loves you and you are the mother of his 3 kids! Just take him back!