Behind every successful man, is a prayerful and resilient wife

…ever heard of this saying? It’s actually a cliché which a lot of us never really pondered on. Hmmm…

If there’s nothing I’ve learnt in my 15 years plus of marriage, I’ve learnt that truly the minute a man and a woman have formed a union before God (called Marriage), the woman is automatically bestowed with an immense power to indirectly ‘rule’ her home but the man takes the glory.

In the early years of marriage, we are completely overwhelmed by all the problems that come with marriage : emotional, financial, social and spiritual (all these will be expantiated in future posts), that we completely forget to do one thing…PRAY!

We spend so much time thinking and rethinking all our challenges, so much so we allow the devil fill our minds with the fear of the unknown. During this trying period, this unspeakable fear may push us to think, say or do things that will push us further away from God. And still, we do not PRAY!

A lot of us want our husbands to be and do a lot of things…but it’s all in our heads and not from our hearts. Because if it was truly from our hearts, we would understand that it’s not by our power or might or our husbands’ power.

It is true that our husbands can say and do things that make us not want to pray for them. They can be inconsiderate, uncaring, abusive, even negligent. But we should not let all these bad attitude block our efforts in building a happy home. God has said in His Good Book that whatever we bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whatever we loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.

What we need to understand is that the devil doesn’t like union at all, especially one blessed by God! Get off your ‘shego’ (female ego) and submit all manner of bad behavior to God – alcoholism, laziness, bad temper, domestic abuse, infidelity, family negligence, etcetera etcetera.

I found out much later that marriage is not only for enjoyment ; some people start their marriages with trials and tribulations but later end in joy while some start the marriage with ‘over enjoyment’ but experience some turbulence along the journey. Sometimes our hurt and anger for our husbands does not allow our prayers work.

We are the only ones that have the power to release our husbands from whatever bondage they may be in, not even his mother’s prayer or his sister’s prayer is as powerful as ours. While we pray genuinely for our husbands, we also go through spiritual and emotional changes. Our heart becomes right, we start to unburden and become better wives.

Let us PRAY so that we start to reap the benefits. Let us form the habit of looking to God as the source of all we want to see in our in our husbands and in our marriages.

May God help us all in the bid to be happy in our marriages. Amen.



Self-control is one skill that every child needs in order to have a successful future as well as a healthy mental and social development. Unfortunately, a lot of kids are lacking in this skill.

I can’t totally blame it on the children, even though they also have a role to play by virtue of their interactions with peers. I blame this lack of skill on the way we parents bring up our kids, that is, our PARENTING STYLE. Some parents are just too indulgent, while some are unnecessarily authoritarian.

Self-control is a skill that should be taught from cradle to adulthood… Well, not necessarily cradle, 😂, because a child needs to be nurtured! You can start training a child from preschool age, say from 2 years of age. And it starts from little things like:
– potty training
– when to have ice cream or sweets and when not to have.
– when to play with toys and when not to.
– learning not to throw a tantrum when mummy doesn’t buy stuff in a shop.

The list goes on and on. The truth is that as parents, if we don’t put our foot down on the rules and regulations at home, our kids could grow up being excessive in practically every aspect of their lives. They may never know just when too much is just too much
In other words, they may never know when to draw the line on their excesses.

Now, as the kids mature into adolescence, lack of self-control starts to take a new look which includes:
– constant breaking of the law which could land him into prison.
– substance and alcohol abuse
– cheating in exams.
– casual sex which could lead to unplanned and unwanted pregnancy – obesity from excessive amount of food.

Any way, bottom line of all this gist, is that we need to continue to look for ways in which our kids can learn to control themselves, by hook or by spanking!… Because at the end of the day, their success and good behavior will be our joy and pride.