“I THOUGHT I MARRIED A SAINT”

Dear Naijahousewife,
My heart is shattered! My husband has managed to kill me!

I have been married to my husband for about 2 years now and we recently just had our second baby, 3 months ago to be precise.

My husband has always provided for the house and for that reason, I usually make excuses for his coming back late. He even travels out of the country a lot. The annoying thing is that he has never taken me out, talk less of our 1st child.  We are always locked up in the house as slaves.

He just got back from a trip overseas, and so I decided to help unpack his bag and see also if I could find some loose cash. I saw a black nylon that was tied and it looked like it contained some cash. You won’t believe what my eyes saw…Used condoms!

I called him and then threw the condoms at him and left the house. As I speak, I’m at a friend’s place and don’t know what to do. My husband has been trying to reach me on my cellphone, but I’m not picking up.

Please advice me, what do I do? I love my husband still but I can’t deal with this.

*Oh, dear! I can imagine how devastated you are! This is definitely a rude shock, especially when you trust that your husband that much to be faithful to you. Well, I have to let you know that running away won’t solve your problem. You need to find answers to all those questions and confusion going on in your head. And the only you can do that is by having a one-to-one conversation with him…absolutely no 3rd party please.

One thing is for sure…at least, he used a condom. It goes to show that he has assumed a level of responsibility and he cares that much to protect his loved one. I know it’s easy to say “He shouldn’t be having extramarital affairs”, but realistically, he’s mere mortal. Temptations happen and they are part of life, therefore, we need to safeguard ourselves with loads of prayer. You both need to open up to each other and find that missing bit in your marriage.

It is well.

6 thoughts on ““I THOUGHT I MARRIED A SAINT”

  1. Hian! Draustin biko if those used condoms don’t belong to the writer’s husband then she has a bigger problem than infidelity on her hands because it means that her husband is either mad or diabolical. Please let’s just stick with infidelity. Meanwhile madam writer pray about your situation, you can run from pillar to post but at the end of the day only God really cares.

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  2. I beg to disagree with naijahousewife, it’s not certain that he used a condom. It’s not even certain that he has had an extramarital affair. I am not saying that he didn’t, but finding used condoms amongst his belongings does not necessarily means that he used them.
    You need to talk to your husband. Like naijahousewife said, running away from the issue will not solve it. You have to discuss it, one-on-one, no third party. No offence is too much to forgive

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      • Well,, We didn’t get that from the story

        “I called him and then threw the condoms at him and left the house. As I speak, I’m at a friend’s place and don’t know what to do. My husband has been trying to reach me on my cellphone, but I’m not picking up.”

        So after seeing the condoms, she has not heard any word from her husband. That’s according to her story.

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