The word ‘cougar’ may be new to some women who are already in the game and who don’t know it. And I don’t mean an animal, even though what I’m about to say is likened to the real cougar. Lol! Just so you know, ‘cougar’ refers to older women who date younger men basically for sexual purposes…
As usual, I stumbled on this article that basically describes how to detect a cougar, which I don’t totally agree with. I’m just gonna list the characteristics and then tell you if I agree or not.
The thing about being a cougar is that not every lady who are cougars set out to be a cougar… it just happened accidentally, meaning that love happened and so age never was an issue. But some ladies actually plan to be cougars and they sure know how to strut their stuff.
Anyway, you guys need to read this and tell me if you totally agree with these characteristics:
1. Cougars take pride in their appearance. They exercise on a regular basis. Couch potatoes and cougars have only one thing in common: They both start with the letter C. Cougars wear sexy clothing and exude energy. They may have some stretch marks and a little extra padding, but they fight the gravitational pull of aging. You won’t see many gray-haired cougars. They feel comfortable in their own skin. They may wear more animal print and low cut blouses than their younger counterparts. Cougars have great posture and understand body language. When a cougar enter a room, people notice her.
2. Cougars have confidence and ooze self esteem. They have high social intelligence and know how to communicate their needs. They are comfortable demanding respect from a man of any age. Cougars are not afraid of being alone and can entertain themselves.
Cougars don’t depend on men for their happiness or to feel complete. They aren’t needy and this quality is what frequently attracts younger men. They aren’t looking for a husband and their biological clock isn’t running out of time.
3. Cougars are financially self-sufficient. They don’t expect to be wined and dined by men. They like material possessions but don’t rely on men to purchase them. If they want to go to a restaurant, theater, or sporting event, they’ll be comfortable making arrangements on their own.
4. Cougars are spontaneous. They stay out late and may be the last to leave a party. They have to be flexible with the younger man’s last minute plans and inability to commit in advance. Cougars know how to have a good time.
5. Cougars enjoy sex! Younger men are keenly aware that older women have years of experience and know how to please them. Their confidence in the bedroom is a big reason for the attraction. A cougar isn’t shy and communicates her sexual needs to her younger guy.
6. Cougars have to be able to handle the stigma of being a cougar. Mrs. Robinson didn’t help the situation by perpetuating the myth of the younger man as the innocent victim of the perverted older woman. Demi Moore paved the way for the older woman/younger man marriage, yet there is still a long road ahead for society to be accepting of the relationship. Cougars need to be comfortable with judgmental people who make snide comments about them. It’s sometimes difficult for children and parents of the couple to accept the unconventional nature of the relationship.
7. Cougars can have viable relationships with younger men. These relationships may begin as “friends with benefits ,” but grow into something much deeper. A large age gap places the couple in different stages of life, and complications are inevitable. For example: The younger man may want children and the older woman doesn’t, or the established older woman may not want to put her life on hold while the younger man struggles with his career.
On the plus side, women tend to live longer then men, so it makes sense to be with a younger man to have the same life span. There’s no deny, the older woman/younger man obstacles are tough, but what relationship doesn’t have issues to work through?
Bottom line: Cougars are strong, independent women who know what turns them on. If they are attracted to a younger man, and the affection is reciprocated, what’s the harm? Age is a number and love has no boundaries.
Source: This excerpt is actually from a 48 year old widow who has been married for 24 years and with 3 children. She submitted her version of being a cougar to YOUR TANGO. She’s presently dating a guy who is 12 years younger than she is.
Anyways, I have an issue with No. 1. It’s not only cougars that pay particular attention to their appearance, as well as exercise. And even if one is older and does all these things, it doesn’t necessarily make her a potential cougar. Most women love to feel good about themselves and be comfortable in their skin…comes with self-love.
Remind me never to wear animal prints…ever!
As for No. 2, you don’t have to be a cougar to ooze confidence and self-esteem. Duh?! It’s an automatic characteristic if one has self-love.
Then, for the record, cougars are not the only ones that enjoy sex…please O! (I’m not implying anything either…so do not go wild with imaginations!). Any woman in a healthy relationship will definitely enjoy S-E-X!