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Dear NHW,

Please, I need your help. I am in a big dilemma.

I moved in with my sister and her family following my relocation from the Northern part  of the country. I’ve been with them for a little over a month and it has been hell for me. My sister is not the problem, her husband is.

Her husband is always touching my breasts or grabbing my butt when I am alone. I try all the time to avoid being with him in a room. I’ve confronted him about it and even threatened to tell my sister, but he says that if I am not comfortable with him, I can leave anytime I want. He knows fully well that I am at their mercy, because I just a new job that I am barely 2 months in. I am hoping to save some money and get my own apartment. My sister is the only person I have in Lagos while my older brother is based in the UK. Even if I tell him my predicament, he may not be able to do anything about it because he is struggling too.

Please help me find a solution to this problem. I am even afraid the man will rape me one day when she travels.


*My dear, there is nothing to think about here…Report him to your sister. Stop threatening and do it! This guy looks like he needs a fix! Like you said, he can rape you, so why do you want to wait until that point?! I just hope your sister is not that type that believes she is married to a saint?!


  1. This happened to me and I exposed him after him doing it again after the first time 8 years prior. My sister no longer speaks to me and won’t let me have ANY contact with my nieces and nephews. She says she doesn’t believe me and hates me. I look for advice but there isn’t any online for our situation. All I can think of is taking a lie detector test and sending it to her hoping she believes me.


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