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I know you are single and searching but please whatever you do, let it not be a married man.

I know you want financial stability or a better still a ready made man, just don’t let it be with a married man.

I know you want need an older person who is mentally and emotionally mature but not with a married man.

These married men will only leave you high and dry. They are not interested in your future. You are an ‘escape route’ for them from the occasional chaos in their family and work life.

They are constantly in their best behaviour, therefore making you see only their ‘good’ side, so to speak.

Let me explain to you what you don’t understand about insisting on this unyielding relationship and why you think you cannot do without him…If you don’t live with somebody 24-7, you can never really see his horrible side. And if it is only the good side you see, it constantly leaves both of you in a constant ‘honeymoon’ phase. You both will almost always gush about yourself, with a continuous flow of hormones, which will keep your heart and ‘punani’ (excuse my french) raging! *If you don’t believe me, ask his wife!*

But lemme just ask you single girls, is it that you don’t have any plan for your future? Is this how you want to live the rest of your life, eating crumbs from another woman’s table? Even if you decide to do a grand ‘appearance’ at his home unannounced, you know what?…he will never marry you! That guy you are dating, and who is married is nothing but a TIME WASTER!

I know there are some of you who have ‘mistakenly’ fallen for married men and your conscience is seriously bugging you, but you don’t know how to break free from this bondage, here are some tips that may help you!

  1. Start exposing your ‘real’ self. Show him your bad sides. Start nagging, complaining…make it a habit exclusively for him!
  2. Start asking for more money, not for you to give your friends a treat, but for you to start saving. Yg youou are planning to leave him, so you need ‘pension’!
  3. Ask Demand that you spend more time with him, even when you know it is not convenient. In fact, call him at inappropriate times…trust me, he will end it with you!
  4. Start making yourself available for other men. Stop declining dates from people who like you.
  5. Why are you settling for less? You deserve more, end the relationship today.

As for you single girls who have sworn to continue this fruitless journey, hate me now and thank me later. Read from someone who is in your shoes now.


  1. yes o! Naijawife you are right to an extent, 90% of the time a relationship with a married man does not have a good ending especially for the Ladies that have staked their future on “these men” i said 90% . There are some ladies that are very much aware of what they are doing,they date these men for FINANCIAL GAIN only as in their heart is not involved, these same ladies find a single guy to marry and the married man ends up being a chairman at the wedding and partial sponsor trust me it happens. What about those that become 2nd wife and still have a larger part of the mans attention , i have seen this with my korokoro eyes or worse there are some ladies that end up snatching the man away from his family hmmm for those ones they will have a case to settle with God on judgment day


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