A distressed blog reader just sent this in and needs advice.
Please send different recharge cards next time. I don’t use Airtel and so I missed that one.
I have something that has been disturbing me and I need some advice on how to go about it. I am getting married at the end of this month but for the past 6 months, my mind keeps wondering about my ex-boyfriend. I really thought we were going to get married but was shocked that after 4 years, he broke up with me. He has refused to tell me what went wrong despite my plea.
Just when I thought I couldn’t go on with life, I met my God-send husband to be. He has really been there for me but he doesn’t know that I have not gotten over my ex. Sometimes, I feel like calling off the wedding but cards have been printed and distributed.
Please help me stop thinking about him. I hear that you are a doctor.
*Blog reader, I understand your plight…really I do. But getting married so soon, to me, isn’t such a wise decision. I dunno..I might be wrong. You should have allowed some more time to go through the healing process. Some of the ways you can fight off this unnecessary feeling, before devil uses you one day, include:
- getting rid of all the things that remind you of him. Deleting his pictures and his numbers.
- do some serious soul-searching and ask yourself why you keep thinking about him (it might just be a bad habit!)
- You really need to focus on getting yourself back on track. You are more or less crying over spilt milk.
- Get busy doing things that are financially and maybe emotionally productive.
Really, how does thinking about him, affect the ‘size’ of your pockets. Since he is the one that broke up with you, chances are that, he has moved on!