Tough question right?
I was listening to an episode of ‘The Talk’ Show where some of the hostesses said they would invest in good friendship because according to them, “Men come and go but friends will always be there”. While one woman said that, she would rather invest in her marriage because her husband is supposed to be her best friend who in actual sense, shouldn’t hurt her. And in investing in her marriage, she is also nurturing it to become even better and stronger…till death do them part! *Oh, how romantic, but sweetheart, that is not always the case*
For me, I would say to you guys, invest in whatever makes you happy. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. Because one works for you, doesn’t mean it should or can work for the other person. REMEMBER, THE KEY WORD IS HAPPINESS.
I am not ready to die for any man who doesn’t bring me joy at all levels…spiritually, emotionally and financially (especially financially!) *covering my eyes in shame* There are some marriages that are not worth investing in while there are some that have hope of salvaging. Now, if you are in one where there is no hope, then you can invest in good friendship. Remember, it is that same friendship which you thought you could find in marriage that you are looking for! You need a friend who can share your joys and sorrows with, someone who can build your self-esteem and not bring you down at every given opportunity. It is that same friendship that can give that ‘hopeless’ marriage a flicker of hope.
But in investing in friendship, one has to be extremely careful! Your choice of friends matter. You will definitely need the Holy Spirit to be your guide. Some are just plain evil and can destroy your marriage. I have witnessed one where a supposed friend escorted her married friend out of her marriage for an extremely trivial reason! And when this married friend came back to pick her remaining things from the house, she met her so-called friend preparing a meal for her husband in her own kitchen!
Also, you know now…women have a lot of drama…can’t deal! I would rather concentrate on my man than my female friends who have a lot of drama. Sometimes, I think I understand what some men go through in their marriages. Female friendship?! Kai! It can be too much work! Friendship is meant to be effortless, relaxing, soothing and most of all trusting.
So, all in all, invest in the one that makes you HAPPY!